Do and donot in love

Don’t buy roses for Valentine’s Day.
Do buy flowers that begin with the first letter of her name.

Don’t go to the beach on crowded weekends.
Do go mid week.

Don’t go to popular vacation spots during their busy seasons.
Do go right before or after the busy season.

Don’t turn yourself into a martyr.
Do make some sacrifices for each other.

Don’t read the newspaper at the breakfast table.
Do talk with one another over breakfast.

Don’t give him a birthday present.
Do give him seven gifts, one for each day of his birthday week.

Don’t leave love-making until just before sleeping.
Do schedule more time for foreplay.

Don’t make love the same way every time.
Do eliminate distractions for two to three hours.

Don’t rush through lovemaking.
Do slow down! You’ll both enjoy yourselves, and each other, more.

Don’t negotiate – as if your relationship were a business deal.
Do learn the gentle art of loving compromise.

Don’t try to change your partner.
Do accept him or her for the special, unique person he or she is.

Don’t act your age.
Do wacky things; express your quirkiness, be creative.

Don’t try to have a perfect relationship. There’s no such thing. Expecting one will only paralyze you. Once you eliminate the goal of perfection, nothing can hold you back! You’ll lose your fear of “doing it right.” You’ll lose your fear of taking risks. And people who take risks, who live life creatively and spontaneously, live more fun-filled, passionate lives.

Do Decide to fall in love all over again. That’s it – just decide. You don’t need to read books that analyze your relationship. You don’t need therapy. You just need to decide. Just think of the great opportunity you have: The less romantic you’ve been, the more dramatic the change will be! I’ve had guys in the Romance Class simply make up their minds to be more romantic. They’ve reported that this simple decision led to falling in love with their wives all over again.

Don’ gloat when you’re right.
Don’t sulk when you don’t get your way.
Don’t worry – be happy.
Don’t try to pack too much into the weekend.
Don’t over-schedule your vacations.
Don’t make the same mistake twice.
Don’t undermine your partner’s authority with your kids.
Don’t reveal the ending of a movie!
Don’t spend your “Prime Time” watching TV.
Don’t drink and drive – not ever.
Don’t stop.
Don’t be a cover stealer in bed.
Don’t interrupt when he or she is talking.
Don’t wait – express your love right now.
Don’t hold grudges.
Don’t take one another for granted.
Don’t go a single day without saying “I Love You.”
Don’t let your mind wander during conversations.
Don’t wait for your partner to read your mind.
Don’t just sign “Love” on your Valentine’s Day card; be eloquent.
Don’t be so judgmental.
Don’t wait until the last minute to make Valentine’s Day dinner reservations.
Don’t even try to leave the house during a blizzard. Snuggle together for a romantic day off.

About the Author:

Gregory J.P. Godek, known worldwide as “America’s Romance Authority,” is a best-selling author and popular speaker. He has appeared on Oprah, Donahue, The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, Good Morning America and the Today Show, as well as in the New York Times, the Boston Globe, the Los Angeles Times,Cosmopolitan and Redbook. He has taught his acclaimed Romance Class to groups as diverse as the U.S. Army, women’s groups, and business organizations.

Copyright Gregory J.P. Godek, Sourcebooks, 2008